What else are you here to be?

What else are you here to be?

I've been facilitating several Resistance Release Technique sessions for individuals and groups and I'm loving it. (These sessions help you gain freedom from self-sabotaging habits like procrastination, overthinking, perfectionism, people-pleasing, etc.)

What's exciting about these sessions - beyond helping you break free from self-sabotage - is that the process invites in a newer, more full version of you.

There's a step in my process called 'Declare your greatness' where I ask participants to answer this question:

If you couldn’t be judged for who you are… if there was no need to censor or filter… if your worth and value were never questioned… who are you here to be?


The answers I'm looking for here are the ones that feel deeply resonant... the ones that have my whole body responding with 'yes!'

But usually at first pass, the answers I receive don't feel alive. They're heady and rational. Or the answers are about who you think you should be, who you needed to be, or who you learned to be... which is okay but lacks power and vitality.

After some nurturing, we arrive at answers and states of being more aligned with your Truth. I can feel the difference and you can feel the difference.

The point is that each of us is so much more than who we've been conditioned to be. We are more than helpers, caregivers, hard workers, or inspirers. Not that any of these roles are insignificant.

But there's also value in you being powerful, assertive, silly, funny, lighthearted, rested, confident, and nourished. There's value in honoring your needs, speaking with authority, taking up space, prioritizing yourself, or doing things that make your heart sing.

When you allow more of your true self to be expressed, your life experience becomes more enjoyable and satisfying. And this too has value. You're worth it.

This reminds me of Marianne Williamson's quote from her book, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles":

"We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

So... I leave you with these questions.

  • Who have you been conditioned to be that you're ready to release?
  • What else are you here to be? What will you allow?
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